How do I ask my new partner to get tested???

[Julie365]

Hey...i just started dating this new guy and i really like him but i keep hearing more and more about std's and really dont want to get into a new sexual relationship without knowing for sure that he's been tested (recently!!) and i'm not at risk of contracting anything. i got tested recently and would even test again with him but i feel really uncomfortable talking about it and have NO idea how he'll react. i dont want to scare him away... how in the world do i bring this up??? ehhh

[getSTDtested Administrator]

Julie,

Asking a new partner to get tested is definitely not easy, but it's VERY smart!! You're doing the right thing by making sure that you are safe and healthy when youre entering a new relationship...and that youre gonna stay that way!! Here's an article on the subject will some advice that I think you'll appreciate and hope you find helpful....

"How To Ask Your Partner To Get Tested for STDs"
(www.theexaminer.com)

Sexually transmitted diseases are difficult to even think about, let alone to bring up in conversation with your significant other. Although there are no guarantees that this process will be easy, following the tips in this article should make it less uncomfortable.

A good approach to bringing up the subject of STDs would be to announce to your partner that you intend to be tested. You can ask them to go with you and be tested together. By testing at the same time, you can be assured that both of you are clean and can continue in a safe and healthy relationship.

If you still are not convinced enough to ask your partner to be tested, here are some startling statistics from the Center for Disease Control: one out of every two sexually active youth will acquire a venereal disease.

Being checked out is not a trust issue, the majority of people with STDs have little or no symptoms and have no idea they are infected. This is exactly why they spread at such an alarming rate. Although some of these diseases are incurable, there are treatments available for most.

You might want to inform a new sexual partner that you are accustomed to asking anyone you are intimate with to be tested. This should help by making them feel like they are not being singled out.

If your genuine attempts at subtly do not work, come right out and say “I don’t sleep with anyone until I am sure that both I and they have been tested.” If your partner declines your request, then they either know that they have an std, or they don’t care enough about you or your health to find out. Either way, cut your losses and move on. You will be better off physically and emotionally.

SOURCE: http://sexeducationforblondes.blogsp...d%20for%20stds