Chlamydia test and being angry

[Gilda]

I never thought I'd be in a place like this, but here I am. I did the chlamydia and gonorrhea test this site offers and surprise! I have chlamydia. I broke up with my b/f over the summer because I was sure he cheated on me, and I think it had been going on for awhile.

I am so pissed! I tried to call to tell him to get checked out (and to yell at him!!!) and of course he won't return my calls. Too bad for him, I'm worrying about myself from now on. I can't get over the anger, I don't want to sleep and can't concentrate at work or in school.

I don't have a question, I'm just upset and need an outlet. This is so not fair!! #$%^ cheater!

[Victoria]

Hiya Gilda,

Wow, it's hard enough to deal with the chlamydia but you have an ex who 1) might be the source of the infection, 2) could have cheated and 3) is blowing you off! That's a lot for anyone to deal with.

First, chlamydia can be totally cured with a simple course of antibiotics (which you're almost certainly begun by now) and when detected and cured is usually not much of an issue with your health. Chlamydia can be a problem there in some cases if people don't test, because it often has no symptoms (especially in females). So good for you in getting tested!

Your ex would be wise to listen to you and get checked out himself. Even men can go without symptoms, so it's good you told him. Now it's up to him and, as you said, you can worry just about yourself!

It's hard to figure out in a lot of cases if a chlamydia diagnosis means a partner was unfaithful, since so many people don't know they have it and the infection can be silent or confused with something else for weeks or months (sometimes even longer). You know best about your own situation, of course, and I'm sorry for the emotional wallop you've taken. You certainly did nothing wrong!

Victoria